People Pleasing

For me People Pleasing allows me to have somewhat of a chameleon effect on my surroundings and environment. I do not like to cause any sort of negative reaction in any person. Therefore I often find myself “people pleasing.”
At times it certainly becomes just part of who I am as a person, because I am so focused on pleasing that I forget to be me. This often causes me to forget what is best for my own well being and I take things internally and destruct in self damaging manners, such as an eating disorder or self harm.
I can still be nurturing to others and care for me, but I just don’t know how yet this would work. I think that it would be a combination of establishing boundaries, and allowing negative reactions.